tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post6192578479133765200..comments2023-12-29T12:10:10.373-05:00Comments on Menopausal Stoners: Of Tiki Men and TiarasPENolanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17920921974302444898noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-51919875500366521192010-09-08T21:42:24.743-04:002010-09-08T21:42:24.743-04:00Lisa, I am humbled and grateful. You send great p...Lisa, I am humbled and grateful. You send great people.<br />Blueberry, you're right - it's always something. It's good that you two are figuring it out somehow.<br />I swear, though, every time I hear, "one thing or another," I think: If it's not one thing, it's your Mother.PENolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17920921974302444898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-32158395839408236342010-09-05T12:34:16.310-04:002010-09-05T12:34:16.310-04:00Relationships are just difficult, no matter what. ...Relationships are just difficult, no matter what. We almost got a divorce 10 years ago, and I offered the options of leaving that town and moving to Austin together for a fresh(er) start, or breaking up. Just last week I realized we could be one argument away from relationship fail. If it's not one damn thing it's another. Change comes no matter what you do.Blueberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17357299403457746440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-22672153145411353022010-09-04T09:08:54.950-04:002010-09-04T09:08:54.950-04:00Although things have turned out differently, I wil...Although things have turned out differently, I will never forget those feelings of change and separation I experienced when MathMan and I separated.<br /><br />I just want you to know it's posts like this - full of honesty and good writing - that makes me want to share you with my friends everywhere.lisahgoldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158660223296807317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-27943592445210414972010-09-04T06:33:15.881-04:002010-09-04T06:33:15.881-04:00Lou - it's 17 years in this apartment, but we&...Lou - it's 17 years in this apartment, but we've lived in this building since before we were married in 1989 - so basically my whole New York life, which is my whole married life.<br /><br />How are things in NZ? Glad to see you.<br /><br />VMM - I think he needs a Long Trail box too. That means a trip up to Hippie Dippy Quaker Camp in VT before I hit the road.<br /><br />Jen - sounds PENolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17920921974302444898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-12856343456942620222010-09-03T23:37:47.277-04:002010-09-03T23:37:47.277-04:00Enjoy your last Thanksgiving and Christmas there i...Enjoy your last Thanksgiving and Christmas there in New York HQ. I can only imagine the nostalgia after 17 years somewhere.Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519427492100090401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-22273537297209985932010-09-03T20:47:44.187-04:002010-09-03T20:47:44.187-04:00Velvet's room looks really nice. I'm glad ...Velvet's room looks really nice. I'm glad he has a Shiner box. It's vital.verymissmarynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-37284681917030501632010-09-03T17:33:33.180-04:002010-09-03T17:33:33.180-04:00Boy, it's all so similar to what I experienced...Boy, it's all so similar to what I experienced a couple of years ago - kids on their own, free from a house and an ex. I get the tears and the leaving behind of the crap that almost seems inevitiable on separation/divorce. My ex's name would never appear on an emergency contact list of mine, but that's okay. I'm glad you got to that point.<br /><br />I said "goodbye" Jenniferhttp://www.jensrealia.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-2508984341955318072010-09-03T15:59:41.022-04:002010-09-03T15:59:41.022-04:00Hi Susan and Welcome!
To give Buzz Kill credit, he...Hi Susan and Welcome!<br />To give Buzz Kill credit, he's always been able to take responsibility for his own actions. That Narcissist still acts as if he is an innocent victim to everybody else's irrational demands and clinging neediness. Sheesh. <br />Hope we get to blow a morning together again.<br /><br />Pat - we've got to have coffee before I move. Email me at dancinbarefoot@PENolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17920921974302444898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-8114631384299145852010-09-03T15:27:19.364-04:002010-09-03T15:27:19.364-04:00...except I still have the Monty Python collection...<i>...except I still have the Monty Python collection.</i><br /><br />Some decent beer, chips, salsa, and Monty Python and that's a fun Saturday night at my house.<br /><br />Adult relationship suck, everybody wants one but they never really know what to do with them when they get one.Commander Zaiushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11000824454124236774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-47488737928641134322010-09-03T14:55:27.819-04:002010-09-03T14:55:27.819-04:00Well I for one am sooo Happy for Me! Cause then I ...Well I for one am sooo Happy for Me! Cause then I get to see you! It's like my Partner in Crime is returning...heheheh...Oh the memories still linger...and new ones will be made. <br /> I am dissapointed about the Star Trek mugs but I'll give ya mine when you get your place here. I still have the ones YOU gave me. One of my few treasures. Thanks for posting what it feels like to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-35040998868094738172010-09-03T13:11:18.635-04:002010-09-03T13:11:18.635-04:00Hi Penolan, I found you today via @lisagolden'...Hi Penolan, I found you today via @lisagolden's tweet and proceeded to blow the entire morning reading your blog archive.<br /><br />This post in particular hit home:<br />http://menopausalstoners.blogspot.com/2008/09/patricia-and-narcissists.html<br /><br />In my case it's nice to finally be on the other side of a bad pattern of repairing the self via husbands-as-parental-power-brokers. Susan Tinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11900811284963063686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-10853085634718134632010-09-03T12:43:57.607-04:002010-09-03T12:43:57.607-04:00Regardless memories are all treasures, some good s...Regardless memories are all treasures, some good some bad. However, all part of what makes you, and your life go round. Things are nothing more, but we are human, and to be able to touch, some small treasure just makes memories come flooding back.<br />I have been married for 30 years, and 10 months now to the same man. Some days cannot stand him any more than he can stand me. We buried a child Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-27147834046925305032010-09-03T10:45:34.436-04:002010-09-03T10:45:34.436-04:00V.V., it takes as long as it takes. When my mothe...V.V., it takes as long as it takes. When my mother heard how easy going Buzz Kill has been lately, she concluded that he's finally medicated. Could be . . . <br /><br />mac, I hear you. I still say, though, that Love lasts when "in love" fades away, but that's a very big discussion. And, too, there's True Love - as defined by The Princess Bride and The Philadelphia StoryPENolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17920921974302444898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-75865035189286475212010-09-03T09:56:10.221-04:002010-09-03T09:56:10.221-04:00HI TRISH
You are so normal-healthy!! :-) I love...HI TRISH<br /><br />You are so normal-healthy!! :-) I love your process and honesty as you begin to transition from NYC and all that your home has been for 17 years. I was touched that Buzz Kill is your emergency contact. Speaks volumes.<br /><br />Love you girl<br />Gail<br />peace and hope.....Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11337675996256691215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-19904825456003142542010-09-03T09:50:00.283-04:002010-09-03T09:50:00.283-04:00We were the best of friends before we married.We w...We were the best of friends before we married.We would hang out, tell stories and just enjoyed each others company.<br />Through 16 years of marriage, that changed. We grew apart. Sometimes I hated her so much.<br /><br />When it all crashed, I felt so bad for all those feelings I had for her. How could I have been that big an asshole to my best friend? How could she have been that much of a machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04073782907747032366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8124480884494186487.post-78026146478529564932010-09-03T09:13:39.230-04:002010-09-03T09:13:39.230-04:00Handling divorces for people for a living, I get t...Handling divorces for people for a living, I get to see the full spectrum of how people handle divorces, what causes them, etc. It's an interesting study of human nature and I've not yet seen any couple duplicate how any other has handled it. They've all been very unique. Who knew there were that many ways to respond, behave, grieve in a similar situation. I'm glad you and VVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08751403913379728345noreply@blogger.com