- Don't take adolescent behavior personally. Acting out is typical when the adolescent has reached a milestone such as High School Graduation and going away to college because of the Separation and Individuation process.
- It is always difficult to be the person on the receiving end of "nothing personal."
Many times, when women are trying to understand annoying male behaviors, they conclude said behaviors are "adolescent rebellion," and that the male is working out his shit with his mother on them. Ergo: The way I deal with Velvet's typical adolescent behavior -which I'm assured could be so much more hair raising that I should be thankful - will influence the future relationships he has with females. They'll say "he's working out his shit with his mother on me."
- I'm his mother, and I don't know how to respond with strength in a way that won't alienate him.
- If I permit and/or enable disrespectful behavior, women will blame me - rightly - for decades.
What's a poor mother to do?