Faith and Trust go hand in hand - or at least they do in my happy little world. That little world wasn't altogether happy last week on account of I shot off my mouth on a friend's Facebook thread. I'm not sorry I mouthed off on Facebook since I'm pretty sure the best thing we can do during this global paradigm shift is share our evolving thoughts which should, theoretically, strengthen the human connection.
I just wish that I would have been mouthing off about the pertinent topic. When I saw this Facebook thread talking about how OWS was wrong to tie up traffic at rush hour because it hurt the 99%, I had no idea that a Fox Local News anchorman, Greg Kelly - son of NYPD Commissioner Kelly who brutally evicted the occupation from Zuccotti Park last week with the help of Homeland Security - went on TV and said that OWS was going to shut down the subways. I was mad at my FB friends because they said OWS was inconveniencing commuters when the trouble actually involved having more faith in the Mainstream Media than the Movement.
Instead of saying:
You know, that march years ago in Selma led by Martin Luther - what's his name? That was pretty inconvenient too. And I'll bet those folks in Pakistan getting hit by drones have also been inconvenienced - but at least they don't have to worry about babysitters anymore now that their kids are dead.
I should have said: What are you talking about? Nobody is shutting down the subway today. Who the hell can shut down the subways in New York City anyway? Bat Man?
If I had been smart, I'd have included a link to OccupyWallSt.org where OWS publishes their daily plans. But I wasn't smart. My head exploded and I got mouthy. Just as my friend had fallen for the BS in the Main Stream Media, I fell for the "divide and conquer" technique.
The good news is that neither she nor I blocked the other - which I suppose is the FB equivalent of stomping off in a huff determined never to speak to someone again. It feels more like one of those family dinners where people who love each other get all fired up and start shouting until they realize they are talking about two entirely different things. We can be grateful that it was way too early in the morning last Thursday for alcohol to be involved.
And we can be grateful that we all learned something important. I am assuming that my dear friend learned something too. I can make that assumption because I have faith that no matter what words come out of her mouth sometimes, she's a caring, thoughtful, ethical human being.
My wish for everyone, as we head into another holiday season surrounded by all sorts of relatives is that when we feel our own heads starting to explode, we take a breath and fill ourselves with love before mouthing off. That doesn't mean we don't state our opinions as strongly as we can. God knows some there are plenty of dumbasses out there vigorously spouting off about all manner of shit, and that BS must not be allowed to go unaddressed just because we're trying to be cordial over dessert.
I know it's possible to be strong and respectful at the same time because I watched Marianne Williamson do it last Saturday at Middle Collegiate Church. Although everyone in the audience that day was 100% behind OWS and everything it stands for, during the Q&A after Marianne's talk, it was clear that there were plenty of mouthy, albeit well-intended, assholes. Marianne softly pointed out that their words carried blame, judgment and an air of superiority. For example, one man had been down to the park and was delighted to see that classes in non-violent resistance were being offered daily, but he was dismayed to find that the people at the information table were clueless about the teachers' credentials. Marianne said that asking for someone's credentials was inherently shaming - as if somebody needed a pedigree to care about peace. She said that all anyone had to do was read A Testament of Hope by Martin Luther King, Jr. and s/he would know everything anybody ever needed to know about Non-Violent Resistance. She went on to say that in reality, the only credential anybody needed was being born, and told the man that he should go back down to OWS and offer to teach the classes himself. That man sat down with a lot to think about, and Marianne hadn't been rude at all.
It's different at Thanksgiving when we're forced to be nice to miscellaneous family, friends and neighbors who don't know their asses from their elbows - but we are trying to educate people, not eradicate them (as attractive as that notion may be).
Marianne referenced this MLK quote, too:
You can have no influence over those for whom you have underlying contempt.
And this one:
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
|Martin Luther King, Jr delivering the Time to Break the Silence speech about Vietnam from the pulpit in the church where I work.|
If this movement is going to be successful - and I have faith that it is - then we're going to have to nurture our own humanity and help it grow and develop with love. Most of us will never actually have to speak to Bloomberg or any of those people face to face. However, we will have to engage old friends, relatives and neighbors in active conversations that facilitate evolution of thought for everyone in the conversation - including ourselves.
Every day people across the world are standing up for economic and social justice, motivated not by hatred of the 1% but by love of each other and ourselves - even those among us who are simply pissed the fuck off and ready to bust windows at the Bank of America. It's a struggle every day. But when I see videos like this one Dennis Trainor, Jr made last week of the #N17 demonstration, I have absolute faith in this shifting paradigm and trust we're going to make it to that mountain top Martin Luther King talked about the day before he died even if it takes ten thousand years.